Hi, my name is Evan.

Yes, I can share all my credentials, achievements, qualifications here etc, but in a world that is full of noise, I’d rather be real with you first.

I grew up painfully shy, abnormally quiet and a self esteem as flat as a pancake.

Perfectionism, people pleasing (being “Mr Nice Guy”) and over-achieving was my way of dealing with my inadequacies and lack of self worth. I believed that these were the only ways to be validated, to be accepted and to be loved, because I believed deep down that I wasn’t enough.

Self criticism, passive aggression and bottling up emotions were the only ways I dealt with pain, conflict and shame.

As soon as I discovered the gym and realised I could be a decent athlete, I started getting attention, and it felt so good and addictive, so I pursued a life that lead me to more of it. I became a model, tried to get into the limelight and onto TV, I tried to win every award I could in sport, I would say yes to anything, just so I could be recognised and be validated that I was good enough by others. At the same time, all the internal issues and wounds kept being pushed deeper and deeper into my subconscious, which started to play out in dysfunctional ways, predominantly through alcohol abuse and the way I treated to myself.

Leaving me unhappy, self loathing, in work that wasn’t aligned, no money and with no real purpose. Distractions and attention was my purpose.

It wasn’t until in my late 20s, where I hit rock bottom, I had no motivation to get out of bed, my parents were paying my rent, and I couldn’t pull myself out of the negativity of self-hatred I had built up over a lifetime, was when something seriously had to change. I started working with a coach, did a few seminars that made me confront my dark side, and something finally clicked…

I had complete control over my reality, it was my responsibility of how I felt and what I believed I deserved. I realised I had self limiting beliefs since childhood such as I am not worthy or good enough for who I am, resentment towards myself and my parents, avoiding many conversations that needed to be had, and more importantly avoiding my true self that wanted to be heard. So I went and started doing the inner work, having those uncomfortable conversations, and learning to finally take responsibility for what I was in control of.

It was at this pivotal moment, I felt a new sense freedom and a peace I never experienced before, and it was at this point I decided to become a coach. I FINALLY found my true calling, and felt a deep desire to help others to take ownership of their lives and experience what I had experienced.

For the past 5 years I’ve dedicated my life to continuous coach training, studying the many ways that humans think, operate and how we get in our own way unconsciously, to what creates long-lasting change within us, combined with doing all the deep inner work myself.

The biggest lesson I learned and I believe my life’s mission is of self acceptance, worthiness and authenticity. To heal myself and to help others heal themselves, and to no longer live our lives unconsciously. As most of my issues and dysfunctional behaviour came from an inability to accept myself fully – both the light and the dark (shadow) sides of me, to believe I am worthy as I am and to fully express my authentic self.

I had spent my whole life hiding my true self in fear of rejection, when in fact my true self is where my greatest strengths lie, where all our greatest strengths lie, but also our imperfections which make us gloriously messy human beings.

Today, I am privileged to help men from all around the world as a men’s mentor, who want to experience the relationship of their dreams with women, take the next level in their career through taking fearless action, and cultivate unwavering confidence in their ability to lead and speak their voice.

If this all resonates with you, come join me on amazing this journey!